“Happy/Sad” Moment…
One of my favorite people in the world is leaving Philadelphia. S. Desai, MD was offered a job in Fairfax, VA and he is taking it. Intellectually, I know he would be CRAZY to not take the offer even though my heart says otherwise.
I met Dr. Desai almost 5 years ago when I was admitted as a patient at the University of Pennsylvania. He’s pretty much one of the most amazing human beings I have ever gotten a chance to know. And I really think I’m a better person by knowing him.
There was a point a few years ago when I was upset about a certain thing going on in my life. We happened to be at a dinner thrown by Penn and this topic came around. Of course, I started crying. S. just stopped that and spoke some real truth into my life. Even though this was almost three years ago… I’ll never forget it.
Last year I had to be admitted into the hospital because of a certain 3 yr old boy & his germs. They ended up making me quite sick. It was a Saturday morning and all the new interns had arrived by my bedside for rounds. Of course I was crying because I was worried. And then out of the blue, I hear S’s voice coming from down the hall (it was a Saturday… normally attendings aren’t at the hospital…unless it’s their weekend to cover)… he came into my room… and I asked him if all the newbies could leave… he shooed them out of the room… he held my hand and just sat with me until I was done crying. He’s wonderful in that way.
He’s always treated me as a friend who he knows instead of just a patient he sees and never really “hears”.
I ran into him and his wife at the movie theater last summer (they live a couple towns over from me)… It was nice.. in a neighborly sort of way.
When I would come in for appointments… we ended up talking about cars, bands, etc. I would tease him about his BMW… because you know… all docs drive BMWs…
He’s someone who doesn’t get angry very often. Another person who cares about him deeply said “in all the years I have worked here… I’ve only seen him get angry once.” I wish the same could be said for me (it can’t… I have a broken picture frame to prove it).
The best thing about him. He loves his wife. Totally and utterly without a doubt. He is passionate about her. And this is what I love about him.. no matter how much money he will make, how successful he will get, etc…he will always be this guy who happens to love his wife.
I will say goodbye, probably with a card & a gift, and let him go. Maybe I’ll get to see him again, maybe not…
If not… I’ll be sad for a little while… but I’m so lucky to have known him. So, so, so very lucky.